Trust your gut, your concern could save a life. Nearly everyone, at some time in his or her life, thinks about suicide. Almost everyone decides to live because they come to realize that the crisis is temporary, but death is not. On the other hand, people during a crisis often perceive their dilemma as inescapable and feel an utter loss of control. Frequently, they may feel they:
- Can’t stop the pain.
- Can’t think clearly.
- Can’t make decisions.
- Can’t see any way out.
- Can’t sleep, eat or work.
- Can’t get out of the depression.
- Can’t make the sadness go away.
- Can’t see the possibility of change.
- Can’t see themselves as worthwhile.
- Can’t get someone’s attention.
- Can’t seem to get control.
If you are concerned about a friend, family member or co-worker, ask the following questions:
In the past month,
- Have you wished you were dead or wished you could go to sleep and not wake up?
- Have you actually had any thoughts about killing yourself?
- If Yes to 2, answer questions 3, 4, 5 and 6
- If No to 2, go directly to question 6
- Have you thought about how you might do this?
- Have you had any intention of acting on these thoughts of killing yourself, as opposed to you have the thoughts but you definitely would not act on them?
- Have you started to work out or worked out the details of how to kill yourself? Do you intend to carry out this plan?
Always Ask This Question:
- Have you done anything, started to do anything, or prepared to do anything to end your life?
- Examples: Collected pills, obtained a gun, gave away valuables, wrote a will or suicide note, held a gun but changed your mind, cut yourself, tried to hang yourself, etc.
Any Yes indicates the need for further care. However, if the answer to 4, 5 or 6 is Yes, immediately escort to Emergency Personnel for care, call 1-800-273-8255, text 741741 or call 911.
Trust your gut instincts even if the answers you receive are no — and if you’re concerned, help get the person to support services that can help.
If the person can’t or won’t talk to you, find someone else who can talk with that person. If you are unsure but still concerned, call the National Suicide Prevention Crisis Call Center to speak with a trained volunteer. Your concern could save a life. Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or text 741741.
Call 911 immediately if you see or hear the following:
- Someone threatening to hurt or kill him/herself or talking about wanting to die. Especially if the person has a weapon or item to hurt himself/herself.
- Searching for ways to kill him/herself by seeking access to lethal means-whether that is online or physically in the moment of despair.
- Someone talking, writing, or posting on social media about death and suicide when these actions are out of the ordinary for the person.